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« on: May 24, 2006, 06:11:20 AM »

i tend to be pretty annoying whenever i get
 jealous on someone or something that is connected to my bf
...im sooo aware of that....just that i dunnow how to get over it...

...can u control it?
...am i the only person which has this kind of problem?
...do u ever get jealous?

..darn!
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« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2006, 07:47:21 AM »

i get jealous too! and i think that's not pretty abnormal.. but sometimes you just have to have 'that' thing so you won't feel jealous whenever a girl talks to your boyfriend, or when your boyfriend talks to a girl.. that's "Trust."   Wink
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« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2006, 09:47:02 PM »

...am just probably is sick.... Cheesy Cheesy
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« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2006, 10:02:26 PM »

"Trust"

Thats right cat or dog,  cat dog , dog cat, which one is it.


...can u control it?
...am i the only person which has this kind of problem?
...do u ever get jealous?


Trust is very important, if u dont have that you are not willing to let him/her take care of your heart with care.
Its on you to control it and not have negative thoughts.
I get jealous to but I look at the bigger picture and think back when she says I love u and I trust her with my heart.
Trust her because just remember all the great things that happened in the past.
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« Reply #4 on: May 28, 2006, 01:11:44 AM »

tnx for d advice...highly appreciated....but i already went to see a shrink..my bf doesn't know this..cuz i know i have a problem...i've been gettin some session and all...i know i just need to cuz i don't like this kind of behavior...piss me off...and i know it annoys him...so far...im gettin better...just focusing on the brighter side....
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« Reply #4 on: May 28, 2006, 01:11:44 AM »

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« Reply #5 on: May 28, 2006, 07:43:07 AM »

tnx for d advice...highly appreciated....but i already went to see a shrink..my bf doesn't know this..cuz i know i have a problem...i've been gettin some session and all...i know i just need to cuz i don't like this kind of behavior...pest me off...and i know it annoys him...so far...im gettin better...just focusing on the brighter side....

Its not big of a deal just a little  concern that you display. Shrinks is just a waste of money. Just stay focus and you cant force someone to act a certain way, its on the person to act willingly and doing whats right for you both. For example, I cant force my g/f to love me more, I just focus on what the best things I do for her and in return should be the same back or more. I just concentrate on whats important the trust for each other and if my g/f breaks it, its her lost. She is aware of the seriousness of this relationship and thats where his trust and your trust must take place.
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« Reply #6 on: May 28, 2006, 10:40:37 PM »

tnx..really for your advice...it means sooo much to me....just that when i get jealous..i don't show it off...i tend to keep it to myself...and the next thing u knew...am stuck in the hospital for days...cuz i couldn't breathe anymore...and everybody around me worries a lot....cuz i have  a heart problem...but really...advices from people who's goin thru this is really a big help....and deeply appreciated... Smiley
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« Reply #7 on: June 09, 2006, 05:30:46 AM »

sorry to hear that.. knowing that you have a heart problem, the more you should take care of yourself..you know.. you must learn to love yourself..
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« Reply #8 on: June 14, 2006, 11:23:05 PM »

yep! its the first thing you should do first.. Love yourself.. does your bf knows that u have a heart problem?
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« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2006, 03:17:39 AM »

he does...that's why he worries a lot...and he makes sure of it that i always feel secure and very well loved!!! Smiley
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« Reply #10 on: June 15, 2006, 07:25:51 AM »

So you dont have to feel jealous though he talks with diffrent girls..coz he really loves you..and its really your problem i guess..hehe you have to change your view in that instances.. coz if he's not into you,he wont let you feel that "secure" thing,and bein loved..

nice thing for you to do is,whenever he talks to a girl,just dont mind it,always think that she's just a friend and you too hav a guy friend so its just fair.... gets? you cant control people,to whom they would talk and go with.. just learn to lighten your mind.. Roll Eyes
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« Reply #11 on: June 15, 2006, 10:28:55 AM »

wow..u have a pretty nice advice there...but my shrink said it's really a rare case of emotional probs..for others  my case seemed to be pretty normal but really if ur in my shoes...its not cuz ..i dunnow..just cant explain so many details...though am undergoin some therapy..and am really getting better....according to my shrink...its becuz of the way i was brought up....
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« Reply #12 on: June 15, 2006, 05:49:19 PM »

 Wink hmmm.. seems lyk u have a diffrent prob aside from bein soOO jealous wd a girl.. i think thats inter-related.. u said the way u was brought up..and now its turnin up on u,i min it shows on ur personality how u wer brought up..

and its really like tat.. so its really an attitude problem..i guess.. you can do personal theraphy.. i mean,if u really wnt to change tat thingy.. u also need to work on ur own.. U hav to control and fight whatever things that comes up on ur mind that u do know isnt gud for u and for evryone around u..

u should also consider the feelings of other people..coz its not their responsibilty to look always after u.. ur grown up..and u should be responsible enuf to tkecare of yourself..

u hav a heart problem..so its bad for ur health wen ur getting mad,sad,confused,or any thing that nega.. so if u dont feel better like you feel ur getting mad at ur bf.. dont keep it.. u can shout!.. it will work.. or say it to your bf..learn to open up!.. so you wont feel that "u cant breathe.." thingy..

releasing your anger or sadness can help u.. dont think sad things.. always do thing that cud make u feel happy and contented.. but only those acceptable things..not those spoiling things.. u brat!.. Tongue lol!

i hope dis helps..i never thot it will end up dis long..hehe anyways.. gudluck! yay
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« Reply #13 on: June 15, 2006, 11:03:42 PM »

hehehe...u sound like my shrink...lol....tnx for ur advices..really it helps...am really a brat actually!!!.. Smiley...tnx a much!!! Smiley
i just wonder if there are also people out there who has the same case as i have.... Huh
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« Reply #14 on: September 22, 2006, 05:21:29 AM »

ahm its just ryt to get jealous w/
sum one else...
me myself admits that...
im a jealous person..
pero iba nah pag flirts ung pnaguusapan db?
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« Reply #15 on: October 04, 2006, 04:36:40 AM »

` ` ahmm samme...
ahhm were the same aha..
well..
ahhmm that olways happens..!
well...ahm lagi q nlang cnsb
sa srili q nah..
hav trust on him nlang.....
but then wenever i see him talknig w/ other gurls na may
conect sa kania b4..
i got pretty jealous!..aha..
ahmm.. i just ignore it ..
tpos..somehow magaaway kmeh aha..
but ngaun na sanay nah its not that
big deal anym0re..
hnahayaan koh nlang xa..
kxeh kung mahal k nia..
he wont flirt w/ others db.?.
or gmanti kah tgnan m kung
magagalit xa..
then pagusapan nio masesetle nah nun..aha..*_*.
houp that help you..*_*

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« Reply #16 on: October 04, 2006, 04:27:51 PM »

It drives me crazy brick
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« Reply #17 on: October 12, 2006, 09:11:41 AM »

Jealousy is really a normal feelin specially if u really like the person. But bein jealous is not an act of love to ur bf.


It is bein selfish and just lovin urself... Afraid to be fooled or to be cheated coz ur afraid to get hurt.


Lovin a person is givin him all ur trust and not making imaginary issues....


So think it very carefully if u love him or u just like him and u love urself evenmore....


Just my opinion ayt?! Give urself a break to all anxiety...
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« Reply #18 on: November 01, 2006, 01:43:22 AM »

getting jealous is pretty normal.. i get jealous myself.. but if your jeaousy turns out to be really REALLY really destructive, then , there must be something wrong with you... there are some instances thoug that you ave to trust your instinct, maybe you'll just be thinking that they are just plain friends pero behind pala everything they are starting something else nah, dbah..!?
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« Reply #19 on: November 01, 2006, 10:30:14 AM »

I can control it most of the time. But when I get really really jealous, I don't talk that much anymore. Sometimes, I look for fights or do sumthing that would take my mind away from it. Sometimes, I look for attention.
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« Reply #20 on: November 02, 2006, 01:04:44 AM »

too much jealousy means insecurity..!? agree..!?
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« Reply #21 on: November 02, 2006, 01:18:54 AM »

too much jealousy means insecurity..!? agree..!?
it doesn't always mean insecure....
my doctor just told me that....

the truth of the matter is...i always wanted to be the center of his attention....before..
thanked God..and
honestly...i have low EQ (emotional quotient)...
i am being treated right now...and in progress..meaning...
emotionally better now..than i used to prior to my treatment.... Smiley
plus diverting my thoughts away from him....
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« Reply #22 on: November 02, 2006, 01:23:02 AM »

it doesn't always mean insecure....
my doctor just told me that....

the truth of the matter is...i always wanted to be the center of his attention....before..
thanked God..and
honestly...i have low EQ (emotional quotient)...
i am being treated right now...and in progress..meaning...
emotionally better now..than i used to prior to my treatment.... Smiley
plus diverting my thoughts away from him....
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good for u then.. grabe talaga ang mga boys ano.. kung tayo nakikipagkwentuhan sa iba, flirt agad tayo.. kung sila, just being friendly lang daw.. pero still.. don't let emotions blind you.. trust in your partner and eventually ma.lessen ung jealousy mo..
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