How do you spot that special something, in a person

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The old song with the refrain “It had to be you, wonderful you” hints of a yearning for the love of someone’s life, foibles and all. It harkens to unique traits that make someone, well, uniquely them.

Nearly all of us want a dream mate – nice looks, a healthy or spicy sex life, and characteristics we value in a person: trustworthy, successful and athletic in appearance are just a few examples. Consider that only a tiny percentage of what makes up a person – physical appearance, personality, motivations, spiritual life, etc. – is truly unique to them. Strip away some of these wish-list items and you’re left with the core authenticity of the individual.

Within 15 minutes of meeting a person, can you spot what makes them so unique? Doing so can help you decide if he or she is right for you. Follow these pointers to spot a telltale sign, behavior or trait that makes a person the adorable individual that they are:

All things surface. What’s he driving? Are his fingernails dirty or neatly clipped? Is she wearing a detectable perfume? Is she sporting the latest fashion or a classic standby? Play detective and observe clues that help you fill the gaps. If he pulls up in a comfortable SUV or sports car with a bumper sticker that says “I’d rather be skydiving,” you might have an adrenaline junkie on your hands. Ask him about his adventurous pursuits in the sky or on the ground. If she’s sporting interesting jewelry, make a comment and see what she says. You might get instant insights into her interests, travels, or even family history.

Communication style. Did he introduce himself in email with a joke? Or was it all prim, proper and serious? Did her zany sense of humor emit through the phone lines or come across email? Check hobbies, interests and vocation for signs of introversion or extroversion. Are they scattered and take forever to get back to you? Playing the field? Pay attention to your communications track record with the person, however short or long it is. You’ll discover a boatload of information on how they handle life and treat others.

Listen. An arsenal of hints and blatant “this is me” signs are available from examining your interactions with the person. If you’ve already had a phone conversation, what was the first thing out of their mouth? What was the second? What do they spend time talking about online, in person or on the phone? Not surprisingly, conversations reveal what the person thinks about frequently and what they value. Likewise, what kinds of questions have they asked you? Anything personal, in-depth or thought-provoking? Is it all about their possessions, their kids or themselves? You’ll be able to spot their values and have some forward-looking clues into how you will be treated.

In short, before you waste countless hours screening candidates by email or in person, learn to hone those qualities you want and need. You’ll kiss fewer frogs and have more fun along the way    

[swit potato™]

sometimes the more we want an ideal partner... the more we end to nothing...
setting rules and guidelines... on luks..attitude... the more we end up dismay..
things can be fake...both in outlook and projection of themselves...
finding our dream lover really suck... for me i think the best way is dont rush...
one minute fairytale can end up to whole life disaster...

[PoGi™]

Well well well, from my experience getting to know if u really find that someone is through, some people will call this not tru but its partly tru for me. Well the people here know me here and already know what im gonna say. So i wont mention it. Gettin to kno someone is 1 thing. But to really kno is finding out that something and doin it u get to kno how well u communicate.And if communication is not good that will be the end of it right there. To find the special something has to be alot of physical work than verbal.   And u go through relationships shorter than they have to be or longer if the physical work is true love and all appreciated.

[~*catdög*~]

wow.. thanks guys..

[majorBABE]

You will know if there's a special something in a person when your heart says it so. It depends, though, on what special something it is you wanna see in a man/woman; it could be the physical or the emotional stuff or both. As you can see, everyone of us is special in everyway. The best way to find out is really through constant contact with that person.  Get to know him/her better... communicate...and you'll see what you're looking for.

[iRu kaRa]

sOmetiMes sEarching for the right someone isnt enough.. you just have to wait for that someone to come.. in Gods time! im stiLl waiting for that someone i wont say that sometimes im not getting tired of just waiting.. i do.. but i aLways think that that special person will turned out to be the best and most precious person that il ever cherished and keep!

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